We all have our perceptions of what a happy relationship looks like: lots of sex, virtually no arguments, being more than financially secure and having children. On Facebook, you’re more than likely to have a friend (or two) that seemingly has the perfect life. Their wall is filled with beautiful vacation pictures and they never seem to have a dull moment.
So what does a relationship really look like for happy couples? Is it as it seems or have we been fooled by pretty pictures? A recent survey by Tango revealed five interesting about happy couples that may shatter some of our beliefs.
1. Happy couples fight regularly
One of the most common misconceptions is happy couples don’t fight. In fact, happy couples fight regularly but are able to resolve their differences in a more effective and constructive manner.
2. Childless couples are happier
Couples revealed that not having children allows for more time to work on their relationship and their career goals.
3. “So in love” on Facebook… is a lie
There’s something to be said about not posting all of your couple selfies on your Facebook to the point of being obnoxious. In fact, 4 out of 5 couples blame Facebook for their breakup. This means you might want to think twice about going Facebook official with your relationship.
4. Cheaters are happy in their relationship
It’s a scary thought that keeping your partner might not “affair proof” your relationship. According to a study by Rutgers University, 56% of married men who engage in affairs report being happy in their marriage.
5. Having lots of sex does not always make you happier
Happy couples base their relationship on a multitude of different factors and not just sex alone. In fact, couples who have been together longer tend have sex less frequently but this doesn’t mean they’re less happy. Long-term couples tend to go for quality of sex not frequency.
Amy Yew is a registered clinical counselor and relationship therapist. She is also the author of a fashion and lifestyle blog Style Du Jour. Tell us what you think and submit any questions you have to amyvancouvercourier@gmail.com.
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