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Amy Yew

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Amy Yew is a contributing columnist at Vancouver Courier blogging about fashion and style for Style by Yew. She’s also registered clinical counsellor and relationship therapist who blogs about relationships for Heart of Vancouver. Tell us what you think and submit any questions you have to amyvancouvercourier@gmail.com. You can also tweet your thoughts on Twitter @AmyYew.

  • 12 lessons on life we can learn from Taylor Swift

    It’s virtually impossible to scroll through your newsfeed without seeing news about Taylor Swift’s new album “Reputation” set to release on November 10th and the swirling controversy that surrounds. . .

    Amy YewSeptember 4, 2017

  • How The Paradox of Choice Is Affecting Relationships

    When it comes to dating, many singles will tell the same tale. It often starts with online dating where each party enters a conversation. At this point , if you are attracted to the other person, . . .

    Amy YewOctober 10, 2016

  • What classic novels can teach us about modern day love

    People who are single often tell me how hard it is to find a good mate these days. They’re met with modern day challenges such as internet dating and plain old changes in what a relationship . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 5, 2016

  • 5 ways to decrease stress during the holiday season

    Even though the holidays are filled with fun parties, family and celebration, it's not always the most relaxing time of the year. Between Christmas shopping and hosting dinner, it leaves little . . .

    Amy YewDecember 8, 2015

  • Searching for a spark could lead to missing out on finding love

    Feeling a sense of spark is one of the most common way people decide if there’s romantic chemistry. It’s what romance movies are made of where falling hard and fast is the central theme in the . . .

    Amy YewNovember 4, 2015

  • Would you bill guests that no showed on your wedding day?

    Weddings these days are not cheap affairs. According to weddingbells.ca’s survey of 2309 Canadians, the average cost of weddings is around $22,429. There is also a considerable amount of time and . . .

    Amy YewOctober 7, 2015

  • 5 most common mistakes people make on a first date

    It’s hard out there when it comes to finding someone you can really connect with. Dating is a whole new game and gone are the days of strictly meeting someone in real life. There are dating sites . . .

    Amy YewSeptember 23, 2015

  • Sexting might actually improve satisfaction in your relationship

    Sexting has been a hot topic for a while now. Parents of teens were concerned that sexting increases the chances of teens having sex while parents who are sex positive believe that sexting is a . . .

    Amy YewAugust 26, 2015

  • Wedding proposal services are taking the headache out of planning the perfect proposal

    When it comes to marriage proposals, people often feel the pressure to plan an unforgettable moment for their partner. Unlike how it use to be, marriage proposals can sometimes take a team in . . .

    Amy YewAugust 12, 2015

  • Is it harder to maintain old friendships and make new friends as you get older?

    Friendship is one of those things we all think will last forever when we’re younger but soon realize that as life take on many unexpected turns, it’s not always the case. We know that friendships . . .

    Amy YewJuly 29, 2015

  • How actual marriage proposals really pan out

    For some people, how their partner proposes is a huge deal. Of course, having an Instagram and story worthy proposal is just part of being in a tech savvy world. There’s no doubt that for some . . .

    Amy YewJuly 8, 2015

  • The Dinner Party offers a modern twist on traditional dating

    Dating has come a long way with the introduction of online dating and dating apps. While the idea behind online dating is well intentioned by introducing us to a wider range of people beyond . . .

    Amy YewJune 24, 2015

  • What happens when your partner doesn’t want to get married and you do

    Even though more people are cohabiting before marriage these days and choosing to marry later in life if at all, a majority of people still view marriage as a personal goal in life or a rite of . . .

    Amy YewJune 10, 2015

  • How and why people lie

    We’ve all lied at some point in our lives. Whether it’s about how someone looks or something we should have taken responsibility for but lied to get out trouble. Lying in general is seen as a bad . . .

    Amy YewMay 26, 2015

  • How to talk to your partner about money

    Experts say that money is one of the top reasons why people divorce or split up but some people are funny about money even when it comes to talking about it. There are several reasons why money is. . .

    Amy YewMay 12, 2015

  • 5 exercises you can do to improve your relationship

    You’ve probably heard (and learned) that great relationships take work. A truly great relationship takes more than sustaining the status quo. It’s about growing as a couple and loving aspects of . . .

    Amy YewApril 29, 2015

  • 10 Vancouverites and their best relationship advice

    Even though most people think my best advice is learned through years of educational training as a relationship counselor, it’s really those around me that often teach me the most. In the spirit . . .

    Amy YewApril 15, 2015

  • The emotional risks of dating a married person

    I’m sure most of us have seen the statistics on cheating and it’s not good. Cheating on your spouse has all kinds of disastrous effects that can cause emotional trauma but what about those who . . .

    Amy YewApril 1, 2015

  • SUPERFICIAL DISCLOSURES MAY RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    Most people communicate through some form of technology on the daily. We text, email, phone, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram to let people know what’s going on in our lives or let others know what. . .

    Amy YewMarch 17, 2015

  • WILL LIVING TOGETHER IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

    Moving in together before marriage is becoming more common today among couples. Between 2005-2009, two thirds of marriage involved premarital cohabition. In fact, only 40% of couples married the . . .

    Amy YewMarch 4, 2015

  • CAN YOU REALLY GET PAST AN AFFAIR?

    Research says approximately 56% of married couples cheat or have cheated on their partner in the past. Having an affair is also different today thanks to technological advances that allow us to . . .

    Amy YewFebruary 17, 2015

  • 5 THINGS ABOUT HAPPY COUPLES THAT MIGHT SURPRISE YOU

    We all have our perceptions of what a happy relationship looks like: lots of sex, virtually no arguments, being more than financially secure and having children. On Facebook, you’re more than . . .

    Amy YewFebruary 11, 2015

  • PEOPLE WHO SPEND MORE ON VALENTINE'S DAY EXPECT MORE IN RETURN

    Most couples I talk to who have been in a significant relationship for awhile aren’t really fussy about Valentine’s Day. They usually opt for simple plans like staying in for dinner and enjoying a. . .

    Amy YewFebruary 4, 2015

  • HOW MUCH SEX YOU'RE HAVING AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    Most people strive for a thriving sex life mainly because it has been linked to how satisfied you are in your relationship according to mainstream belief. Perhaps the most challenging factor for . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 27, 2015

  • 5 WAYS TO BETTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    Couples struggle with all kinds of issues on the daily. Whether this means mending a broken trust or coming up with solutions to fix problems, it’s all part of being in a good relationship. For . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 20, 2015

  • ANALYZING YOUR BREAKUP CAN MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER

    When dealing with a breakup, it’s often recommended (probably by your close friends) that you should do things to take your mind off thinking about it. Let it go they say and move on. It’s also . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 13, 2015

  • 4 THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE MARRIAGE

    Most people out there plan to eventually marry. Marriage has become (or rather always) been a rite of passage for many cultures. With the same determination as we have for our career goals, we’re . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 6, 2015

  • THE REASON YOU'RE SINGLE MAY BE IN YOUR DNA

    We’ve tried to explain why people stay single throughout time. Maybe your standards are too high or you’re secretly attracted to unavailable men? Magazines have dedicated a whole section to dating. . .

    Amy YewDecember 30, 2014

  • SHOULD YOU LEND MONEY TO YOUR PARTNER?

    This is a tricky question for many people in relationships. We’ve all probably heard the cardinal rule that mixing friends and family with money is bad news coming. It’s often difficult to enforce. . .

    Amy YewDecember 16, 2014

  • TOP REASONS WHY PEOPLE DIVORCE

    One of the top questions people ask when a marriage ends is what happened and where it did all go wrong. Divorce rates have actually stayed fairly steady in Canada within the last few years. CBC . . .

    Amy YewDecember 9, 2014

  • HAPPY PEOPLE AREN'T AS EMPATHETIC AS THEY WOULD LIKE TO THINK

    The moment anyone enters this world, they’re taught that happiness is an eternal goal you strive for. Happiness is key and leads to all kinds of great things. For example, people who are . . .

    Amy YewDecember 2, 2014

  • NEW RESEARCH SHOWS WE ARE MORE PRONED TO CHEATING AT CERTAIN AGES

    Forget mid life crisis. Apparently, we’re in crisis throughout our lives according to a recent research published by the National Academy of Sciences. This new study looked at self reflection and . . .

    Amy YewNovember 25, 2014

  • 10 MOST COMMON TYPES OF ONLINE DATERS BASED ON THEIR PROFILE

    One of the most crucial parts of creating your online presence is through your profile. While I would say your profile picture is usually the first thing someone sees, your profile is the next . . .

    Amy YewNovember 18, 2014

  • A BROKEN HEART CAN LITERALLY KILL YOU

    We’ve all had our hearts broken at one point or another and if you haven’t I’d argue that you’re incredibly lucky (in which case you should go out right now an buy a lotto ticket). Losing someone . . .

    Amy YewNovember 12, 2014

  • HOW TO LOSE A GUY

    We’ve all made silly mistakes in relationships that lost a guy at one point or another. Most of us look back and wonder why we ever let our irrational selves out to play and vow to never be “that . . .

    Amy YewNovember 4, 2014

  • SHOWING OFF RELATIONSHIP ON FACEBOOK LINKED WITH INSECURITY

    Declaring your love for someone on Facebook is a pretty big deal these days. It’s really a version of cyber PDA (public displays of affection). We all have at least one person on Facebook or . . .

    Amy YewOctober 28, 2014

  • ARE YOU USING SOCIAL MEDIA TO KEEP THE BACK BURNER WARM?

    Who’s on your social media list? Why do you follow these people and how many of them have you had a romantic encounter with? There are many reasons to keep an ex on your friend list but it also . . .

    Amy YewOctober 23, 2014

  • ONLY 1 IN 5 WOMEN ACCURATELY DETECT SOMEONE FLIRTING WITH THEM

    Knowing someone is interested in you isn’t always as easy as it seems. Daters often misread signals from interactions as someone showing signs of romantic interest rather than simply being . . .

    Amy YewOctober 15, 2014

  • PHYSICAL ATTRACTION CAN MAKE YOU FALL IN LOVE MORE OFTEN

    Love is one of the most fundamental elements people seek in their lives. Whether it’s friendship, familial or romantic, we deviate towards others that make us feel accepted and understood. Singles. . .

    Amy YewOctober 6, 2014

  • THE NICE WAY OF BREAKING UP ACCORDING TO RESEARCHERS

    Anyone who’s been in the difficult position of having to dump someone knows there’s really no going around breaking your partner’s heart. That may be true but how you break up with someone can . . .

    Amy YewSeptember 30, 2014

  • DO WE FAVOR TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE PROPOSAL RITUALS?

    We currently live in a progressive world where women take on entrepreneurial roles and fathers are being granted paternity leave. It seems that gender roles in relationships are slowly starting to. . .

    Amy YewSeptember 23, 2014

  • STUDY SHOW USING YOUR CELL PHONE AFFECTS READING PROFICIENCY

    There’s no doubt that cell phones have become the most used technological device for staying connected. Gone are the days of snail mail and a hand written letter. You can now log on to all your . . .

    Amy YewSeptember 9, 2014

  • STUDY REVEALS 36% OF MARRIAGES BEGIN WITH A HOOKUP

    The old saying of “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” is being challenged by new statistics released by researchers at The University of Virginia. Most people believe that . . .

    Amy YewSeptember 3, 2014

  • HIGHER NUMBER OF GUESTS AT YOUR WEDDING MIGHT INDICATE BETTER MARITAL QUALITY

    Planning a wedding these days can sometimes take a whole team to pull it off. There’s no doubt that anyone can easily get carried away with wedding plans and as the cost goes up, so will most . . .

    Amy YewAugust 26, 2014

  • BIKERS FOR AUTISM RIDE FOR A CAUSE

    Everyday, millions of people around the world are affected by mental illness. Perhaps the most difficult circumstance is if you’re a parent of child diagnosed with mental illness. Each person and . . .

    Amy YewAugust 19, 2014

  • WEVORCE IS AIMING TO MAKE DIVORCE EASIER

    There’s a cost to everything including separation. People who choose to divorce now face the high cost of financial turmoil usually associated to lengthy litigations during the divorce process. . . .

    Amy YewAugust 12, 2014

  • IS ROMANCE DEAD WHEN YOU'RE IN A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP?

    They call it a seven-year itch for a reason. The common notion that romantic love dies after the “honeymoon phase” is certainly a prevalent belief. Some people even go as far to say that marriage . . .

    Amy YewJuly 30, 2014

  • PUTTING YOUR PARTNER ON A PEDESTAL MAY BE HARMFUL TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    P { margin-bottom: 0.21cm; }A:link { color: rgb(0, 0, 255); } Most people would agree that having a partner who adores every quality—bad or good—is at the top of their wish list. While the idea . . .

    Amy YewJuly 23, 2014

  • LONGER COMMUTES ARE CONTRIBUTING TO HIGHER DIVORCE RATES

    When you’ve lived in the city most of your life, being stuck in traffic becomes part of your everyday routine. As a driver in Vancouver, you’ll be invariably met with construction for bike lanes. . . .

    Amy YewJuly 15, 2014

  • SINGLES ARE LESS CELEBRATED THAN COUPLES WITH CHILDREN

    Babies. Weddings. Babies. As my big 3-0th birthday approaches, it seems like my weekends are filled with cyclical patterns of baby showers and wedding. It became even more apparent when my bank . . .

    Amy YewJuly 8, 2014

  • "RELFIES" AND WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION

    There have been many articles recently published linking selfies to narcissism or a narcissistic personality. We've evolved past the “selfie” (def: taking a photo of yourself) and “belfie” (def: a. . .

    Amy YewJuly 1, 2014

  • ON-AGAIN/OFF-AGAIN RELATIONSHIPS: WHY DO WE KEEP GOING BACK?

    There's nothing like the familiar. Having history with someone can have a profound impact on who you are today. Let's face it, technology has largely impacted how we connect with others including . . .

    Amy YewJune 24, 2014

  • STUDY SHOWS SUCCESS IN LOVE MAY INFLUENCE SUCCESS AT WORK

    It can sometimes feel like a battle trying to juggle everything from relationships to work. People often believe that a heavy investment of time in work is usually associated to a decline in . . .

    Amy YewJune 17, 2014

  • COLLEGE STUDENTS ON HOOKUPS AND WHAT GOES ON IN BETWEEN THE SHEETS

    Our college years are formidable times for exercising independence. You thrive on the excitement of not knowing what will come next and felt like the possibilities were endless. It's also during . . .

    Amy YewJune 10, 2014

  • OVERACHIEVING WON'T GET YOU EXTRA GRATIFICATION POINTS

    Overachiever (verb): to perform, especially academically, above the potential indicated by tests of one's mental ability or aptitude or to perform better or achieve more than expected, especially . . .

    Amy YewJune 4, 2014

  • 10 RELATIONSHIP STRUGGLES THIS GENERATION HAS TO DEAL WITH

    It’s certainly not like when our parents were growing up. My mom often told me that she just doesn’t get it and that the newer generation makes it much harder on themselves than they need to. I am. . .

    Amy YewMay 27, 2014

  • 74% OF US ARE HAVING SEX WITH AN EX TO GET OVER A BREAKUP

    When it comes to being dumped, it seems that most of us are having a tough time dealing with it. A recent study by the University of Missouri revealed that 66% of people had sex with another person. . .

    Amy YewMay 20, 2014

  • WHAT ARE YOUR CHANCES OF BEING UNFRIENDED ON FACEBOOK?

    There’s something about someone unfriending you in social media that has an element of public shaming. Some people take Facebook quite seriously and having someone delete you is equivalent to . . .

    Amy YewMay 13, 2014

  • RESEARCH SHOWS TEEN PREGNANCY IS AT AN ALL TIME LOW

    Parents dealing with teenagers often face challenges associated to puberty such as mood swings, body image issues and some form of rebellion. Your child who once gave you kisses before hopping out. . .

    Amy YewMay 6, 2014

  • ARE YOU AN EMOTIONAL CHASER?

    Most people have come across a person who was so sensitive, good looking or caring that it made them partner material. The only obstacle? He or she is spoken for. Now this may mean two things: . . .

    Amy YewApril 29, 2014

  • WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE ON A RELATIONSHIP BREAK

    It’s a rule of thumb that when you’re stressed to simply take a break. During that time you’re encouraged to take deep breaths and disengage yourself with the stressful event to allow for a . . .

    Amy YewApril 22, 2014

  • HOW GOSSIP MIGHT BE GOOD FOR SOCIETY

    Most people (including myself) have been told that gossiping is bad and that this sort of idle chatter corrodes any true form of conversation that benefits anyone. I’ll be the first to admit that . . .

    Amy YewApril 15, 2014

  • ARE YOUR CHANCES OF FINDING LOVE BASED ON SEX RATIO?

    Most people have noticed an imbalanced sex ratio in Vancouver. Women often win out over men in numbers meaning there are more options for men to choose from than women. People have many theories . . .

    Amy YewApril 8, 2014

  • FAT SHAMING: HOLLYWOOD IS NOW BEING ACCUSED OF GLAMORIZING OBESITY

    It appears that Hollywood can’t seem to win. Controversy began swirling a few days ago when ultra candor Joan Rivers outwardly fat shamed actress Lena Dunham saying that she’s giving people the . . .

    Amy YewApril 1, 2014

  • IS HAVING A BABY BEFORE MARRIAGE THE SMART MOVE?

    This week we received the happy news that actress Mila Kunis is expecting a baby with partner Ashton Kusher. They seem like a nice enough couple and definitely have a stable career to go with that. . .

    Amy YewMarch 25, 2014

  • HOW NETFLIX BETRAYS YOU IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE

    It became apparent to me lately that like millions of people in the world, Netflix has taken over my life in more ways than one. It really does creep up on you without you realizing the . . .

    Amy YewMarch 18, 2014

  • WHY NEARLY 50% OF US INDULGE IN ON/OFF RELATIONSHIPS

    Most of us realize that you have to sift through the bad to get to the good and yet survey shows nearly half of teenagers and young adult have indulged in an on/off relationship. We’ve all had at . . .

    Amy YewMarch 11, 2014

  • How 5 movies helped cut the divorce rate for newlyweds

    It was a star-studded night at the Oscars on last Sunday. Many of the presenters (the academy included) made sure that audiences were aware of the impact movies have on informing, inspiring and . . .

    Amy YewMarch 4, 2014

  • JOB SECURITY VERSUS DREAM JOB: SHOULD YOU TRUST YOUR HEART OR BRAIN?

    A few weeks ago on the TV show GIRLS, we were introduced to a prevalent issue that we’ve all faced at some point of our lives. Should we follow our dreams or stay in a job that ensures financial . . .

    Amy YewFebruary 25, 2014

  • OVER SHARING CAN MAKE YOU PREDICTABLE IN RELATIONSHIPS

    When you’re in a long-term relationship, you have realizations that shock you into accepting that you’ve arrived at certain milestones. One of which is when your partner knows you so well that . . .

    Amy YewFebruary 18, 2014

  • IS VALENTINE'S DAY ON ITS WAY OUT?

    Apparently to the new generation, Valentine’s day is loosing the hype that it use to have for Vancouverites much like the Olympics in Socchi which forces people to get up at unruly times like 6am . . .

    Amy YewFebruary 12, 2014

  • 20 QUESTIONS AND LESSONS WE CAN ALL LEARN FROM SEX AND THE CITY

    When it comes to love, no one has asked more questions in television history than Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City. While her search for love may have been a lengthy journey, she’s asked some. . .

    Amy YewFebruary 4, 2014

  • ARE WE POWER OBSESSED?

    It seems like everyone is taking the express lane to land themselves on the top these days. Whether it’s being the next instagram sensation to just showing off what you have over everyone else, . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 28, 2014

  • YOUNGER MEN DATING OLDER WOMEN IS ON THE RISE

    It all started with the movie American Pie when Finch slept with his friend Stifler’s mom. While it’s fairly common for men to go for younger women, there’s a new trend in dating where younger men . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 21, 2014

  • HOW DRINKING MAY BE RUINING YOUR CHANCES OF FINDING LOVE

    A large part of being social now involves drinking. Rarely will dining out or parties be booze free. Even the Golden Globes was sprinkled with Moet on each table and more than a few scenes of . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 14, 2014

  • "MISSED CONNECTIONS" AND "I SAW YOU" POSTS THAT WILL BRIGHTEN YOUR DAY

    There’s something profoundly romantic and simplistic about those “I saw you” or “missed connections” posts. It’s like throwing a message in a bottle in hopes that it will reach that someone you . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 7, 2014

  • THE TOP 10 NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS FOR 2014

    As soon as the New Years Eve countdown ensues, we swear that the New Year will bring new changes. For most people, nursing a nasty hangover can have you thinking you would never drink again (we’ve . . .

    Amy YewJanuary 3, 2014

  • 30 AND SINGLE: WHEN WHAT YOU EXPECTED ISN'T WHAT YOU GET

    There are certain chronological points in life that are considered milestones. When you turn 18 you’re considered an adult legally. At 19, you can legally consume and get into nightclubs. Your mid . . .

    Amy YewDecember 23, 2013

  • MALE BIRTH CONTROL PILL IS CLOSER THAN WE THINK

    Brace yourselves everyone. There may be a new male birth control in the wings. According to TIME, a new paper published in the Proceeding of the National Academy of Sciences is showing new signs of . . .

    Amy YewDecember 16, 2013

  • SINGLES ON RELATIONSHIPS AND THE HOLIDAY SEASON

    Getting through the holidays when you’re single is about being in a state of mind. Warm holiday movies and staying in from the cold weather outside can make you feel rather lonely. It reinvigorates . . .

    Amy YewDecember 10, 2013

  • CHRISTMAS SEASON IS THE SECOND HIGHEST FOR BREAKUPS

    As the holidays and are nearing and a new year is lerking, it brings an imminent bout of reflection on the lessons learned and resolutions moving forward. I find that it’s always during this time of. . .

    Amy YewDecember 3, 2013

  • RACIAL PREFERENCES SHOWN FOR ONLINE DATING

    Researchers have spent years trying to figure out the exact formula that brings two people together. There have been numerous researches that focus on evolutionary theory suggesting that facial . . .

    Amy YewNovember 26, 2013

  • Facebook Can Now Predict Whether Your Relationship Will Last

    Whether we like it or not, social media appears to be over running a majority of people’s lives. While younger generations have been acculturated to the normality of having information published to . . .

    Amy YewNovember 19, 2013

  • Bribery Is The New Pick Up: Trips, Plastic Surgeries and A Free Tank of Gas?

    It’s old news that some women date in exchange for certain perks from men. I’ve heard of women dating men for new purses, nice dinners or even to use them for networking opportuntities. While these . . .

    Amy YewNovember 12, 2013

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    Sports Hall of Famer Boyd Bayne got tricked on Halloween and his free-wheeling treat is still missing. Bayne, best known in the community for his 20 years as a coach of champions at the Spruce . . .

    Heart of VancouverNovember 5, 2013

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